tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4370422366125077923.post8350077216713688499..comments2023-11-03T07:29:11.860-05:00Comments on Fostering a Blessing: Please Help My SonDenisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08819487198786802863noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4370422366125077923.post-72394612622488113162018-05-11T22:10:12.187-05:002018-05-11T22:10:12.187-05:00Oh, I totally get your post. With our four "...Oh, I totally get your post. With our four "chosen" children, I am so often the "bad" parent and so often the problem, as well. I am soooo very thankful, before they moved in, my husband said these words "We may never get a thank you from them, but that is not why we are doing this. We are doing this, because we believe this is what God wants us to do." I am also grateful I prayed for an unconditional love for my children, like Christ has for me. We experience, with these often difficult children, a tiny glimpse of what God experiences with humanity. I love my four children, unconditionally, and that is what has gotten me through so many difficult times, especially the rejection comments. I can't imagine someone else being in care of MY children. They are my children, even if I didn't give birth to them. I have often looked at them and said "I am doing what I'm doing, because I love you too much, and I want you to turn out well." I also say "Sadly, I have come to realize, I want you to turn out to be a person of good character, more than you do." I keep telling them, even when not reciprocated, that I love them. I love them. I love them. Over and over and over, again. Being there, in spite of their actions and attitudes, proves to them, eventually, that they are loved. Hang in there, Denise, we will look back ten years from now, knowing in our imperfect state, we tried to do the best job we could. Doesn't every parent that truly loves their child? :) If you claim to always have your act together, you are leading a delusional life. I remember a quote that means so much to me, since life is not always easy: "This may have come as quite a shock to you, but it was no surprise to God." Take care. God bless! Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com