Tonight at dinner both boys were out of sorts.  A mess really.

They were using the manners of toddlers.  Twice Middle Boy lay his head on the table and whined.

I asked everyone to please act like their most adult self for the remainder of dinner.  I lit the fuse.

This started the "I was going to do nice things for your birthday tomorrow, but you can forget it now" and "I hate you.  I really mean it this time." from both boys.

What is going on?