Younger Boy and I had lunch today with Dad J and Older Boy.  It was a nice time.

It was good to hear about how he is doing.  He was quite respectful the entire time during lunch with one exception of a smart aleck response he gave to Dad J and immediately started back pedaling.

We took the opportunity to question the boys about what Middle Brother might be remembering.  His doctors believe he is having PTSD flashbacks, because there is no medical reason for his seizure-like behavior multiple times per day.  During these times he clearly has fear in his eyes.

I asked the boys point blank if they could think of ANYTHING Middle Brother might be remembering that would make him very scared.  It was interesting to watch them, because every time one of them started to talk it almost seemed as though they were looking to the other for approval that it was okay to say anything.

They mentioned Bio Dad shooting at Middle Brother with a paint ball gun.  This is the brother who is severely handicapped and in a wheelchair.  They also mentioned him witnessing a lot of fighting between Bio Mom and Bio Dad.  They also talked about Older Boy and Older Sister being the caregivers most of the time, because during the day their parents were at work and in the evening they either went to school or went out.  They talked about drugs and alcohol.  They talked about Middle Brother laying in his bed and crying and crying.

I wasn't expecting the information to just flow.  I was expecting to get stonewalled.

I thanked both boys for helping their brother and told them I was very proud of them for sharing.

Prayers for healing for these kids...there is a lot of "stuff" in there that needs to come out.