Middle Boy wants to have a friend over this afternoon.  He generally doesn't ask to do much socially so I try to accommodate him when he does.

He has responsibilities which need to be done before tomorrow.

We discuss those responsibilities and how if he agrees to do them his word is a contract and it shows his character whether or not he follows through. 

People in his life have generally not followed through so to him not following through is "no big deal".

I want him to understand it is ABSOLUTELY a big deal.

Praying I am raising men of good character.  Worrying that I am not.