The boys live on extremes.  There is no in between for either or them. 

Yesterday during our discussion about communication and relationship I mentioned something that neither one of them do.  The first words out of their mouths every single day when I get home are "what is the plan for dinner".  I told them it wouldn't hurt them to say something else to them every now and then.

Today when I got home it was COMPLETELY over the top.  They met my car in the garage and opened the door for me.  They carried my bag in and asked about my day.

They can tone it down a little.  Maybe go for something in between the two extremes.