Middle Boy was on a rampage tonight partially because he wasn't getting his way.
We were in the car driving to baseball and he was having a meltdown. No other way to describe it.
He was screaming at me about not being polite. Every time I would start to say something he would scream about how I wasn't even respectful enough to not interrupt him. When I would be quiet he would accuse me of ignoring him. He screamed about how I am NEVER accountable for anything and how I am provoking this behavior. He called me a b****. He said I was never meant to be a mother and I was just trying to fool everyone. He said he has never felt this unloved in his whole life and he thinks I treat him like he is a game.
The entire time I just kept a calm voice and kept saying "help me understand what you need". He kept saying he needs me to be accountable for my HORRIBLE actions. I asked him what that looks like to him and he said that it involved listening. Then when I told him I had heard everything he told me he screamed about how I didn't care.
He kept screaming he was sure I thought I was being emotionally and verbally abused. He screamed about how all I have ever wanted was to break him down and completely throw him away.
We got to the game and I told him he could choose to calm down and go to the game or just take a minute to regroup. He told me he didn't want to see my face again...ever.
I got out of the car and went to the game. About 15 minutes later he came and told me I need to make a decision about whether or not I want him to live with me in the next 10 minutes or else. I asked what the or else was and he broke down and cried.
Here's the thing. As much as it SUCKS to be under his nightly attack I still can't imagine being him. He is on this emotional roller coaster and can't seem to stop the ride.
Pray we can get through this. It is exhausting for everyone.
We were in the car driving to baseball and he was having a meltdown. No other way to describe it.
He was screaming at me about not being polite. Every time I would start to say something he would scream about how I wasn't even respectful enough to not interrupt him. When I would be quiet he would accuse me of ignoring him. He screamed about how I am NEVER accountable for anything and how I am provoking this behavior. He called me a b****. He said I was never meant to be a mother and I was just trying to fool everyone. He said he has never felt this unloved in his whole life and he thinks I treat him like he is a game.
The entire time I just kept a calm voice and kept saying "help me understand what you need". He kept saying he needs me to be accountable for my HORRIBLE actions. I asked him what that looks like to him and he said that it involved listening. Then when I told him I had heard everything he told me he screamed about how I didn't care.
He kept screaming he was sure I thought I was being emotionally and verbally abused. He screamed about how all I have ever wanted was to break him down and completely throw him away.
We got to the game and I told him he could choose to calm down and go to the game or just take a minute to regroup. He told me he didn't want to see my face again...ever.
I got out of the car and went to the game. About 15 minutes later he came and told me I need to make a decision about whether or not I want him to live with me in the next 10 minutes or else. I asked what the or else was and he broke down and cried.
Here's the thing. As much as it SUCKS to be under his nightly attack I still can't imagine being him. He is on this emotional roller coaster and can't seem to stop the ride.
Pray we can get through this. It is exhausting for everyone.
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