I have a new tactic which has been temporarily successful.

Some days there is just not a lot of respect in our home.  Some of it is RAD, some of it is teen boy.  Either way...not a lot of respect.

In the past I have gotten frustrated and/or mad.  Sometimes I even took it personally.

Now I just remain calm.  When someone says something disrespectful to me I simply say "I prefer to be treated with respect."  I don't comment on the demand or the comment that was made to me just simply "I prefer to be treated with respect."

So far it is working.  It stops both boys dead in their tracks.

I don't know how long it will work, but for now.  It is working.  Praise God for that!!