Today I got a call from Older Boy's teacher. She was crying.
Older Boy has A LOT of missing assignments in language arts. She called me and asked me if he could do an academic detention. That's how it works, so of course he will do the academic detention until ALL of his missing assignments are complete.
When she told him of the academic detention he ran out of her room and screamed that he was going to football practice. He had the misfortune of the football coach hearing the screaming and he assured Older Boy he would in fact be going to the academic detention.
After school Older Boy went to the detention room without his backpack, because he "doesn't have missing assignments". The teacher pulled out her grade information and made a list for him of the things he needed to complete. He promptly ripped up the list and told her to f*** off. She sent him to the library to get a copy of the book he is supposed to be reading for class since he "left his at home". (Not true, but whatever.) He never made it to the library. After having him paged throughout the school for 20 minutes the security team located him on the football field...at practice. He did not go back to his detention willingly so he was escorted/carried by two security team members.
When he arrived back in class he told the teacher she was a f****** b****. She told him she was going to call me and he told her that was fine, because I couldn't/wouldn't do anything about it anyway.
Since I had sufficient warning I asked Middle Boy and Younger Boy to head to the basement as soon as Older Boy arrived home, because I needed to talk to Older Boy.
As soon as Older Boy arrived home I asked him about his day at school. He told me he had a great day and that nothing had happened except that he had to do an academic detention. I asked if anything happened during the detention he thought he should tell me about. He said "no". I then explained that his teacher had called me crying. He immediately began screaming "I went to the library and the teacher is lying." I asked him to go to his room to calm down. On the way he kicked the wall in the hallway and was kicking and punching his bed and wall. I told him he needed to quit and that when he calmed down he could come tell me what happened.
When he came back to the kitchen to talk to me he again insisted that he never went to the football field. I explained what his consequence was going to be for the behavior and lying. He screamed that he was getting a snack and I couldn't stop him. We were supposed to be leaving for church in five minutes and were going to grab dinner on the way. When I told him he would not be eating a snack he took the ziploc bag of pizza and punched me in the stomach with it. He proceeded down the hall and kicked out one of the rails in the banister.
I called 911. At this point I am not necessarily worried for my safety, but I am done with the violence and property damage.
I am going to spend the weekend praying about putting in my two week notice for Older Boy. Tonight as I sit here crying about how I couldn't do it anymore and how I am a failure to Older Boy I can't find peace. I don't want to make a decision based on the emotion surrounding tonight. I want God's hand in it.
Prayers for the next few days. Prayers for wisdom and understanding. Prayers for peace.
Older Boy has A LOT of missing assignments in language arts. She called me and asked me if he could do an academic detention. That's how it works, so of course he will do the academic detention until ALL of his missing assignments are complete.
When she told him of the academic detention he ran out of her room and screamed that he was going to football practice. He had the misfortune of the football coach hearing the screaming and he assured Older Boy he would in fact be going to the academic detention.
After school Older Boy went to the detention room without his backpack, because he "doesn't have missing assignments". The teacher pulled out her grade information and made a list for him of the things he needed to complete. He promptly ripped up the list and told her to f*** off. She sent him to the library to get a copy of the book he is supposed to be reading for class since he "left his at home". (Not true, but whatever.) He never made it to the library. After having him paged throughout the school for 20 minutes the security team located him on the football field...at practice. He did not go back to his detention willingly so he was escorted/carried by two security team members.
When he arrived back in class he told the teacher she was a f****** b****. She told him she was going to call me and he told her that was fine, because I couldn't/wouldn't do anything about it anyway.
Since I had sufficient warning I asked Middle Boy and Younger Boy to head to the basement as soon as Older Boy arrived home, because I needed to talk to Older Boy.
As soon as Older Boy arrived home I asked him about his day at school. He told me he had a great day and that nothing had happened except that he had to do an academic detention. I asked if anything happened during the detention he thought he should tell me about. He said "no". I then explained that his teacher had called me crying. He immediately began screaming "I went to the library and the teacher is lying." I asked him to go to his room to calm down. On the way he kicked the wall in the hallway and was kicking and punching his bed and wall. I told him he needed to quit and that when he calmed down he could come tell me what happened.
When he came back to the kitchen to talk to me he again insisted that he never went to the football field. I explained what his consequence was going to be for the behavior and lying. He screamed that he was getting a snack and I couldn't stop him. We were supposed to be leaving for church in five minutes and were going to grab dinner on the way. When I told him he would not be eating a snack he took the ziploc bag of pizza and punched me in the stomach with it. He proceeded down the hall and kicked out one of the rails in the banister.
I called 911. At this point I am not necessarily worried for my safety, but I am done with the violence and property damage.
I am going to spend the weekend praying about putting in my two week notice for Older Boy. Tonight as I sit here crying about how I couldn't do it anymore and how I am a failure to Older Boy I can't find peace. I don't want to make a decision based on the emotion surrounding tonight. I want God's hand in it.
Prayers for the next few days. Prayers for wisdom and understanding. Prayers for peace.
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