So...the scar on Younger Boy's head and the associated memories.  I talked to Therapist C and Therapist P about them today.  I told them about all of the times the memories have surfaced in the past couple of weeks.

There is a pattern...it was BLATANTLY OBVIOUS.  Any time Younger Boy feels challenged or doesn't want to do or talk about something the "memory" comes back.

Therapist C told me this is always a tough one, because you don't want to tell the kiddo that they can't think about the memory, BUT they can't use it as a crutch or an excuse.  We decided to call him on it.

He started to cry when we did.  He admitted that it has been an excuse...many times.  What is interesting is the times he listed.

Running the mile in PE.
Doing the pacer test in PE.
Independent writing in language arts.
Small group time in youth group.
In science.
In math.

Never at home. 

Therapist C and Therapist P talked to him about how the feeling of not wanting to do something or something being hard...those are normal.  Things are hard.  For everyone.

He can't continue to use the memories as an excuse, because that will lead to WAY BIGGER issues.

Prayers he will understand.  Prayers for wisdom to gently remind him of this when he is using it as a way to get out of something.