You have to earn trust.  Middle Boy doesn't get that.

He thinks with everything that he should be able to do what he wants and I should like it and not say anything.  He's a teenager.

He thinks he should be able to text, be online and whatever else until he "gets too tired" as long as he doesn't have an attitude problem the next day. 

Here's the thing.  To him he NEVER has an attitude problem.  I force him to have an attitude problem.  He is always "provoked".

He will be just following the rules.  If he follows them he will earn trust and then the rules may relax...we'll have to see.