I am so frustrated right now with the whole moving situation.
I don't know when we are going to move....no idea.
A couple of weeks ago I sent an email to Realtor asking if we were good to go for closing on August 10th and if not DEFINITELY by August 17th. He responded that as long as the loan was "cleared for closing" everything was good on our end.
Apparently I didn't understand what "good on our end" meant. I interpreted it to mean we would be closing no later than August 17th, because I had heard from the financial person that we would receive "cleared for closing" on August 10th. Realtor was copied on all of the correspondence.
Naively I went about setting up everything for August 18th. When I say everything here's what I mean:
Movers hired.
Appliances delivered.
Utilities changed.
Trash receptacles delivered.
People to help with move.
Someone to watch Sophie.
Someone to take Middle Boy to therapy and bring him home.
Address changed
School transportation set up for Monday, August 20, at new location.
Today Realtor tells me he didn't talk to the owner about it. What did "good on our end" mean? Owner can't make the 17th date. No idea when they can make it.
The boys are a MESS. They need as much pre-teaching and warning as possible. I have already had to tell them once that we weren't moving. Tonight I had to tell them AGAIN. To say it brought behaviors would be an understatement. I can't blame them. They are questioning EVERYTHING.
Is this about the adoption? Is it not going to happen either? It is going to get postponed? What about school?
Neither of them can handle this. I can't help them. I talked to both therapists and they don't think they will be able to deal with starting school and then moving. They told me to brace myself for the worst. School is hard enough for kiddos with attachment issues. Now we have been going to move TWICE and aren't. I have no credibility with either of them. They don't believe I am going to adopt them and now they are ANGRY.
I get it. I don't blame them. I don't know what to do.
Pray for us.
I don't know when we are going to move....no idea.
A couple of weeks ago I sent an email to Realtor asking if we were good to go for closing on August 10th and if not DEFINITELY by August 17th. He responded that as long as the loan was "cleared for closing" everything was good on our end.
Apparently I didn't understand what "good on our end" meant. I interpreted it to mean we would be closing no later than August 17th, because I had heard from the financial person that we would receive "cleared for closing" on August 10th. Realtor was copied on all of the correspondence.
Naively I went about setting up everything for August 18th. When I say everything here's what I mean:
Movers hired.
Appliances delivered.
Utilities changed.
Trash receptacles delivered.
People to help with move.
Someone to watch Sophie.
Someone to take Middle Boy to therapy and bring him home.
Address changed
School transportation set up for Monday, August 20, at new location.
Today Realtor tells me he didn't talk to the owner about it. What did "good on our end" mean? Owner can't make the 17th date. No idea when they can make it.
The boys are a MESS. They need as much pre-teaching and warning as possible. I have already had to tell them once that we weren't moving. Tonight I had to tell them AGAIN. To say it brought behaviors would be an understatement. I can't blame them. They are questioning EVERYTHING.
Is this about the adoption? Is it not going to happen either? It is going to get postponed? What about school?
Neither of them can handle this. I can't help them. I talked to both therapists and they don't think they will be able to deal with starting school and then moving. They told me to brace myself for the worst. School is hard enough for kiddos with attachment issues. Now we have been going to move TWICE and aren't. I have no credibility with either of them. They don't believe I am going to adopt them and now they are ANGRY.
I get it. I don't blame them. I don't know what to do.
Pray for us.
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