Our meeting with Pastor J and Pastor T at church went very well.

We talked a lot about anger in our household.  About the level of anger which occurs on all fronts. 

We talked about how EVERYONE who lives in our house is passive aggressive to some degree.  Some more than others, but everyone is passive aggressive.

We talked about aggressive behaviors and damaging behaviors.  We talked about trust.

At one point I knew we were striking a nerve with both boys, because Younger Boy started to cry and Middle Boy dissociated.  I was able to bring him back to present fairly quickly, because I caught it fairly quickly.

Pastor T described his thoughts on what we need to do.  He compared our anger to a boiling pot that you need to lift the lid on every so often and "release the steam" so it doesn't boil over.

We talked about communication and how important it is.

I am so thankful for our church family.  I am so thankful to these two men for sitting down with us and mediating this discussion.

Middle Boy LOVED hearing from them.  He said that he really felt like he could connect with them.  This is NOT something he says often so I know he really means it.